Mixed
Children are amazing! They provide parents with wonderful fun, laughter, cuddles and love just to mention a few things. I adore spending time with my children, they are fantastic to be with, to talk to, to laugh with, to hug and watch grow. I can’t possibly imagine life without them. However, there are times when every parent struggles. We all have bad weeks when things can become very mixed. It’s a roller coaster ride, one minute the children are behaving fantastically well, you have fun together and everything is rosy. The next minute, everything turns upside down and the children are fighting, whining, screaming and arguing.
For me this has been one of those weeks. We have had great times crafting, playing, running around and just spending time together. On the other hand, there has also been many down times too. The children have played up, not listened, whined, screamed, argued and fought. I will admit I have got cross and shouted, which I know is exactly what I shouldn’t do, but it is so hard sometimes. Children can really test your patience! However, we are all human, but I usually spend the rest of the day feeling bad about it, like I’m the worst mother in the world. I’m sure I am not alone, we all do things as a parent we are not proud of, but I like to take these moments as an opportunity to reflect on things and work out how I can get things turned around.
I know my kids are good kids and even when they are playing up, they are just being children, it’s all normal stuff, but that doesn’t make it easy to deal with. There are times as a parent when we ourselves are not on top of things. This affects how we react to our children’s behaviour, rather than the children becoming more challenging. I feel that when things start to get like this, I need to look at myself to alter it, rather than to expect my children to change.
Parenting is a very mixed roller coaster of a ride. There are many ups and downs, but it is our job as parents to try to turn the down times into ups.
A thoughtful post Karen. I completely agree – a little self reflection can go a long way #WotW
Very true x
Just how I felt and all mothers do sometimes.
I know this feeling well and it’s seems this word is a running theme in my house. #Wotw
I think we all go through this don’t we x
Yes we do. Hope things are picking up.
Oh yes, I can relate to this! Generally my kids are a pleasure to be around, too, and they are by their natures very happy and active. But sometimes they make me mad! More Boo, than Little Man, as she asserts herself more regularly! Just a sign she’s growing up, and I need to adjust how I react. Good that you’ve had some fun as well as frustrations this week. Thanks for sharing with #WotW x
We did have some fun this week too, but I do need to think about my reaction to behavior I think
Yup – I reckon mixed could pretty much be the word of the week for any parent!
Definitely!
Yes completely agree that we sometimes need to take a step back before reacting x
It’s true, just very hard to do x
I can relate to this…..Great post x
Thanks x
Couldn’t agree more, some days I feel like you hit every different emotion, good and bad! Being a parent can give you the highest high but when your feeling low its the worst feeling in the world.
Parenting is definitely so full of ups and downs
Before I am a stressed mother. Everything is so hard to overcome and now I mellowed down in the worry department because my son is really settling down too. I dont know who influences who but I am happy that I can slowly enjoy motherhood. So true when you said that theres up & downs. And we should try to make downs to up. I am still learning to do that =) #wotw
It is not easy turning downs into ups, but as long as we keep trying I think we will get there
You are definitely not alone. My three year old’s going through a ‘meltdown’ phase, at least once a day and usually taken out on his brother. After trying the calming down methods that worked with his brother with no luck I have had to learn to react completely different for him to calm.
It is learning about how each of our children react too as they are all different and have different needs, you are right x
I find myself shouting relatively often and its not a good thing – I’m well aware of that. Now I recognise the stress in myself, or the PMT or those feelings of being out of control and I know its not the children’s fault and I immediately apologise for shouting and make sure they know I love them straight away. I’m not saying this makes it OK but I think at least it teaches them that its possible to turn around anger into love in an instant and to be forgiving and apologetic and accepting. I hope! X #WotW
Yes, no one is perfect and that is an important lesson to teach children too I think x
A very heart felt post. It can be a roller-coaster but at the risk of sounding terribly cheesy – it’s the best adventure you’ll ever have:)
Very true, it is definitely and adventure and also the best thing ever!
Yes very true. It’s a real mixed bag parenting and some days I do it better than others.
Yes, we all have good days and bad days